Adopted child adapting to new parents

Adopted child adapting to new parents

Adoption is the transferring of parenting from the biological parents of the child to other people. The new parent takes all responsibility, rights and love and the role to take care of the child. Unlike guardianship, adoption has a permanent effect on the child so it requires societal recognition either through legal means or religious permit.

Children even young ones have a problem and difficulty adjusting to the new environment after being brought to a new home. Like other human beings children have emotions that get affected due to various changes in their environment. Children tend to retaliate from the new parents and new home; they refrain from showing affection and they mostly keep to themselves. Trust is an attribute that adopted children take very long to give to the new parent. Some of the children mostly those who have come from places where there is inadequate food, they tend to sneak food into their rooms.

Poor grades in school are another defect that adopted children face in school. This is mainly a psychological element. Most children have their minds occupied with their new home and get carried away by thoughts about home and their new family. Some have a problem coping with the school and learning since some may be street children who are not used to going to school. Others face challenges such as mockery from other children since they have been adopted. This usually creates a feeling of retaliation and they tend to push themselves away from other people and blame their new parents for being the cause of difficulty in their lives.

Children have a difficult time communicating and socialising with other people and are mostly retrogressive and introverts. Parents try to build up conversations but they still do not open up or share their troubles or joys with them. They have difficulty trying to make friends and getting along with new siblings if the new parents already had other children.  This leads to psychological complications later on in their development. Some may grow to be mentally retarded, others may be totally unsocial.

Those children adopted at an older age usually have a negative and difficult relationship with their new parents (Clark, 9). They are usually not grateful to their new parents and usually show resentment, anger and lack of trust until the adoption is made and permanent. Mostly they test their parents and even after gaining their parents trust they still continue doing so. Acting out and being mischievous, getting themselves into trouble is also still a temporary issue .............